2020 Grind, Growth and Goals

Nykee and Nelson enjoying their couples session

2020 is around the corner. New Year, New Decade, New Everything.

Are you starting over? Are you continuing to grow? Are you setting goals?

The time is now. If you have not started your New Year list of goals yet, it is time! This is no ordinary New Year this is the beginning of a ten year span. The door closed on a decade passed! Stay tuned for some major inspiration because I am putting together a list of 5 ways to motivate yourself for the RISE AND GRIND OF A NEW DECADE!

  1. Intentionally JUMP out of your comfort zone.
GO with childlike wonder.

Growth is not found when we do the same thing over and over each day. That is also, for some the definition of insanity. If you want to grow, change your habits, perceptions, situation and life you must get out of your comfort zone. Sure, you could take baby steps but I firmly believe that may not be enough. 2020 is the time to push yourself out the nest of comfort. What is the one thing you have ALWAYS wanted to do but did not have the guts to pull the trigger on? Tattoo, sky dive, travel to a different country? It could be something as simple as finding a new job because the 9-5 you work NOW sucks the life out of you. Maybe it is cutting your hair after years of wearing the same style. Maybe it is taking dance lessons or painting classes. What in the world are you waiting for? We are not getting any younger and life is just getting shorter. MAKE THE MOVE!

2) Plan a trip.

Tulum, Mexico Myan Ruins

Choose a random but beautiful place in this big beautiful world and go there. Taking trips may seem out of reach financially for some of you but you would be surprised what you can afford with a few cutbacks in life. For Example: no more Starbucks during the week, just make coffee at home. Boom! You just saved $100 a month. By the end of the year you have plane tickets for two or a ticket for one and a hotel stay. $1200 is a paid off cruise, a trip to the east coast, a weekend getaway to wherever! Planning a trip does something inside of you, it lifts your spirits, and gives you something to look forward to. It is worth the daily sacrifices of non-essentials to feel the freedom of travel. Once you unlock this door you will want to spend every cent to leave your homestead. Traveling changes you. It allows you to see that the small town mentality is not the ways of the world. It allows you to see the kindness surrounding other places and it opens up doors to meeting unique and lovely strangers, cherishing moments and not things. We tend to be numbed by the media and busy life around us that we forget there are cultures we don’t know, beautiful places outside our home and workplace, billions of people to meet and so many memories and stories to add to our lives. When your life flashes before your eyes, think about what you will see. Where have you been? Where do you want to go?

3) What is your Grind?

Run towards your goals

My question to you is, what is the one thing that makes your heart skip a beat? The one thing you can do for yourself that no one else can? What is something you feel so passionately about that you are willing to grind for? Your job, your self image, your attitude, your marriage? We all have different priorities at different times in our lives. Some of us have changed the “what” many times. The goal and dream can change but the hard work and road to success does not. “The dream is free, the hustle is sold separately.” I suggest writing down your big goal, then underneath make a list of small goals that ultimately lead to the large goal. Remember to be realistic. The goal may take you 3 years but you need to have small goals set for 6 months to a year out. Small goals will assure you when times get rough that you are on the right path, keeping your motivation to hustle. Document, keep a journal or keep an excel spreadsheet of all things accomplished along the way. Numbers don’t lie. 2020 is the time to change and grow! You must grind, you must hustle and you must sacrifice to see a change. According to dictionary.com the definition of grind is “hard dull work.” How hard are you willing to work to achieve your goals? That answer only lies within you.

4) Self Love is Worth It

You have got to give up the negative self talk in 2020! No more! Throw it out with the past decade. To truly love yourself it starts in your mind, it starts with planting positive seeds and watering those seeds each and every day. The next time you are thinking about cutting your body, mind or self down, stop and think, ” Would I speak this way to someone I love?” Think about your daughter, mom, sister, anyone you love. We are so critical of ourselves that we don’t see the beauty in ourselves that others may see in us. You need to change that. You are fearfully and wonderfully made, by someone who loves you despite your flaws or mistakes. Self love begins on the inside, what you see and love about yourself will be reflected on the outside. Spending time alone, find a hobby that makes you happy, know that you are not alone. All woman must find themselves and in finding themselves fall in love with themselves. It is okay to value yourself so much that you do not let any one treat you badly. End the toxic relationships, end the self doubt and negative self talk! Forgive yourself for past mistakes. 2020 is your year to change your life and it all starts with you, your mind and your self-love.

5) Be Present in the Moment

Louisiana Sunrise

Stop and smell the roses. Enjoy the fiery sunsets. Stop and listen to your children laughing in their bedrooms. Drop everything and kiss your spouse. Society has made us to feel like we always need to be busy. This is not true. It is okay to say in 2020, “You know what, I am taking Sundays off.” ” I am sorry but Wednesday nights are for family game night.” The only reason life is so busy is because we allow it to be. Your kids will be fine sitting out this activity so you’re not occupied 5 nights a week. Let them enjoy playing outside while you enjoy a glass of wine. Take time to read a book and put the kids to bed early. You have the power to slow down your agenda. It will not make you less of a person or parent. Enjoy what you have left of your children, your spouse and your time on this earth. Tomorrow is not guaranteed. What is it that you want to remember 20 years from now? Your busy schedule, the full color coded planner or the laughs, tears, and moments so preciously engraved in your heart. The time will pass quickly so choose wisely. 2020 is the year to slow down and enjoy the little things, the pretty places, the giggles, and the tasty sips of wine.

So what are my goals for 2020: Well I have a few and I would love to share with all of you. Personal goals: continue on this journey of self love. I want to talk the talk and walk the walk. I want to love myself at any weight, age and form. My 20s were literally crazy, I lost myself through many obstacles, mistakes and becoming a mother. My 30s will be happy, healthy, and full of self love. I will enjoy my kids, my husband and my business. I also plan on becoming more involved in my community. I want to volunteer more and serve others, I NEED to serve others more. I also want to empower other women. I want to show them that they are worthy and loved. That I have their back no matter what. Life is tough but I want each woman to come to know their own strength. I want other women to know that they are capable of beautiful relationships, conquering their goals and loving their self.

Business goals for 2020: I want to double the clients I served in 2019. I have grown so much in just one and half years of business and I do not plan on stopping. I will continue to learn, attend workshops, collaborate with local photographers and new photographers. I also want to specialize in Senior Portraits. Through photography I want to serve others. I want to do this by helping my clients better understand the value of beautiful, professional photography, prints and wall art. I believe everything old becomes new again. There is a lost generation out there who do not print their images and sadly may not have albums to share with their future children and grandchildren. It is my job to show my clients the value in tangible products. Our digital files are never safe from a crashing hard drive, lost jump drive, or internet glitches. So that being said my clients in 2020 can expect more wall art and albums in their homes.

Seniors 2019

Life is short, it is okay to take time for yourself, it is okay to stop and say, “I am taking a breather.” If you value yourself, your time and your happiness you can grow and reach goals this New Year and throughout the next decade. The only person holding you back is you. You have 2 weeks! Make a list, check it twice and come up with a plan of action. Put the naysayers behind you and believe in yourself. Work hard and the world is your oyster. Okay, I quit with the cliches and cheesy lines but it is all true! You got this. It is time to recreate the vision of yourself, your business, your relationship, anything you want. The time is now. New Year, New Decade, New Everything!


Be Kind.

Be the Change.

Ashlee Bergeron



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